I was having some thoughts on jealousy today. And how aggravated partners get when they are dating someone who gets jealous. And I can completely understand that, because its also a horrible feeling when someone doesn’t trust you. But I use to be one of those jealous girls and I know how it feels to be on that end. And I remember how utterly ashamed I felt for it. And I don’t think jealous people are jealous because they want to be awful human beings, it’s because a part of them is broken. And even though I feel like I have come a long way in terms of how I deal with jealousy now, I throw so much love at all those people who are struggling with it. Because you feel like you want that assurance that you are their one and only and I use to feel so selfish and horrible for feeling like I needed that from my boyfriend. And when he’d react to me in such negative ways sometimes I would get really angry at myself. But I want to say, if you are one of those jealous people, you don’t need that reassurance from anyone else. You are so damn perfect. And don’t worry if your partner has a friend who’s a girl or chats with the waitress in a friendly manner. He’s with you because you are fucking amazing. And I want you to know you are fucking amazing. And getting over that jealousy is a process, be gentle with yourself. I always use to tell myself, that if someone ever did cheat on me, that is when I have reason to be angry. But if that doesn’t happen I will trust him. Because without trust and working together and talking openly and honestly there isn’t much of a relationship going. It just honestly kills me when people are so hateful towards jealous people or people who feel any kind of emotion which is negative. Because all I think is, can you not see they are hurting? And I just want to run over and give them all hugs and tell them they are worthy and don’t need to question their greatness. You are going through something right now and you will make it through. You are strong and I love you. And yeah, sometimes people’s emotions aren’t realistic, because that’s sometimes how emotions work. Sometimes we can’t immediately explain why we feel how we do, but it doesn’t make them any less real. I just want you to know that if you are hurting or dealing with something right now, it’s okay. I remember always wishing someone would just tell me, it’s okay. So I’m here to tell you that, it’s okay bb! You are going to get through this and you’ll be so much stronger.
*And I understand that dating a jealous person brings a lot of mixed emotions for the partner too and I am also aware of those, I just wanted to focus on the point of view and feelings of the jealous person in this post*